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1. Lisa R on October 3, 2007 6:18 am

   I agree and I think women do themselves a great disservice when they don’t realize that men respond to the physical. A woman responds to the emotional. That’s the difference. I love this chart, from Every Women’s Battle:

   Men - crave physical intimacy
   Women - crave emotional intimacy

   Men-give love to get sex
   Women - give sex to get love

   Men - body can disconnect from mind, heart, and soul
   Women - body, mind, heart, and soul intricately connected

   Men-stimulated by what they see
   Women -stimulated by what they hear

   Men - recurrent physical needs cycle
   Women - recurrent emotional needs cycle

   Men - vulnerable to unfaithfulness in the absence of physical touch
   Women - vulnerable to unfaithfulness in the absence of emotional connection.

2. Dr Fin on October 3, 2007 8:30 am

   Why does this make women “more discerning”? Other studies show that men’s visual orientation is not learned but inherent: it’s the way we are made. Think Adam here: he didn’t see Eve and say, “Hmmm. I wonder if she will be a faithful and enduring partner, suitable for intimacy and child-rearing?” He said, based on her appearance alone, “Wow! Hey, let’s get a room!”

   Whatever first gets our attention is not what keeps us around. “As a ring of gold in a pig’s snout . . .”

   The presence or absence of visual attraction is unrelated to discernment, and a woman’s initial assessment of a man is no less fallible than a man’s.